Everything has two handles, the one by which it may be borne, the other by which it may not. If your brother acts unjustly, do not lay hold of the act by that handle wherein he acts unjustly, for this is the handle which cannot be borne; but lay hold of the other, that he is your brother, that he was nurtured with you, and you will lay hold of the thing by that handle by which it can be borne.
This is some simple, practical advice. You have the ability to choose how you grab on to a given situation. If something is unsettling, look for an alternative approach that allows you to move past the event.
I think is is useful when it comes to dealing with news and politics, as well as personal relationships. So often I'm tempted to grab hold of an issue by the "outrage" handle, which does nothing but upset me.